How many times have we said these words to someone? Maybe not very often because we often meet people we like and move into relationships with them, often never verbally expressing this feeling. Conversely, we sometimes like people and are too afraid to tell them, let alone show them. When this happens, we often miss opportunities to build relationships with people who could bring the best out of us and vice versa.
These missed opportunities to express real connection lay the bricks to long lasting shrines to solidarity, and they can happen often in any lifetime. When one fails to express warm feelings towards themself, this can cause lasting side effects on the individual. As well as carry over into all of the individual’s relationships.
Take a good look at yourself and say positive things to your reflection
Self-love is the foundation of every relationship. A method that I highly recommend is mirror work. Mirror work is taking a good look at yourself in the mirror everyday (or several times a day if possible) and saying positive things to your reflection. Things like what you’d say to someone else you like.
Though, if you find mirror work is too weird here are three steps you can take to show yourself how much you like you, and value that face staring back at you in the mirror:
- Take yourself to a movie
- Take yourself on a long walk
- Take yourself to a comfortable place where you can call your favorite people to let them know that you value their presence in your life and what you like about them
Each of these steps will feed your sense of self-love in different ways. Even more, you can come up with some of your own ways to show yourself some love. Isn’t it time to stop leaving everything on the table for everyone else while you remain hungry for being liked, as if you’re some kind of odd sacrifice or commitment to others?
Another added bonus to liking yourself is that your energy will attract the people who will really like you for you. So, here’s to liking you a little bit more today than the day before.
If you are in need of tips or help with managing your self-love and liking of self, contact us at tanyikamoorehealingarts.com for a consultation.
By: Tanyika “Tann” Moore, LMFT
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