Most days I value the benefits of technology. My smart phone, my social media accounts and especially my calendar containing all of my upcoming appointments. What would I do without technology? I ask myself this question until I get the notification that it’s time to change my password. This tiny message often fills me with a sense of inadequacy and dread because I don’t remember my current password. By the time I feel this way, I’ve tried several attempts to use a password that I thought was right but isn’t the password at all.
Every time this happens, I’m reminded of how quickly we can become locked out of our own space. How we can become an outsider looking into our own existence.
Whenever I’ve had to reset my password I am often frustrated by all of the many requirements to develop a stronger password. One capital letter, one lowercase letter, one number, one special character and it must be at least eight characters in total. I mean really? I have to do exactly what you want me to do – follow this format – in order to establish a password and get into my email?
Let’s be honest, no one wants emotional hackers infiltrating their firewall of feelings
Seems absurd right?
But is it really?
Or is it beneficial to demand strict guidelines?
Much like how each of us could benefit from having strict guidelines for letting others (and often yourself) have access to your innermost thoughts and feelings?
When we look at our own lives it is important to remember that there will be times that we have access to spaces in our mind where we can begin to overthink to the point of overwhelm. At times our emotions and how we feel can be tapped into by simply spending time with friends at some concert or while eating at your favorite restaurant. Other times however in order to access what it is you’re really feeling you need to change your access code.
Sometimes your access code for feeling can be as simple as watching a sad movie with a sad friend. Other times it requires different characters or special characters in order for the strongest password to be created. You may gain access with a journal that helps you recognize what it is you’re feeling through writing down those feelings. You may have to spend time in nature. Or being at the beach or taking a walk in your neighborhood while breathing the fresh air can give you access to your feelings.
Or at least help you clear space in your mind to better manage your current feelings. You may also find that you need to meditate or pray. These spiritual practices are important in ways that help you have access to the intersection of gratitude and the desire for more.
So, the next time you are prompted to change your password or to remember your old one, remind yourself that yesterday’s access codes may not be the same as the ones required today. We are all changing, growing, evolving, and moving. Maybe the source of your frustration is expecting to stay the same and expecting everything and everyone around you to stay exactly the same.
Let’s be honest, no one wants emotional hackers infiltrating their firewall of feelings. When people change the locks then the keys or pass codes must change. If they didn’t, you would be vulnerable to uninvited guests coming in without permission and seeing things only meant for you and a select few.
If you’re looking to change your personal pass codes, to limit identity theft in your feelings storage center, and to set healthy boundaries around emotional commitments, contact us at tanyikamoorehealingarts.com to see if we can help.
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