We all do it. We all go through something at various points in our lives. For every person who is going through something, there is at least one other person who is going through something very similar. Either they’re also currently experiencing that something, or they’ve endured the experience and have lived to tell the story.
When we go through events like natural disasters, an illness, relocation, public humiliation, a breakup, or a reduction in the workforce, we may be feeling disappointed and all alone in our particular scenario. Oftentimes, the reality that you’re not the only one with problems can present opportunities to compare and justify why you’re feeling overwhelmed or immobilized.
On the other hand, this realization can be comforting. When commonalities are embraced with others who are going through, or have been through the same kind of something, we can find comfort. We can lean on what they find useful, or we can gain new understanding from their history.
When major life shifts render us cornered and confused remind yourself that:
Are you looking at the symbolic glass of your life as half empty or half full?
– It Could Be Worse: Are you looking at the symbolic glass of your life as half empty or half full? If your car breaks down, you would call your insurance provider for assistance and help with getting your car fixed. Though, some don’t have the coverage they might need on their insurance plan. In any situation, the perspective we take can alter how we feel about and deal with the situation at hand.
We can look at the situation with a half empty perspective and choose to become so upset about the car breaking down that getting help is delayed and transportation is lost. We can also look at the situation as half full and decide that this is a good time to get in touch with people who understand what you’re dealing with and what your car needs, in order to get the attention your car needs and be back on the road as quickly as possible.
– You’re Not Alone: Everyone is working on how to manage their life. They might be dealing with looking for work, or they’re searching for the best time to submit their two-week notice. Fact is there is always going to be someone out there who is handling the same or similar circumstance you’re managing in life. Whether the situation is happening around the same time as yours, or another person has already dealt with the situation, you’re not alone and you can reach out for support.
– Seek Out Resources: Some of the best people to ask assistance from are those people who are living the life you seek to live. So, seek out the right resources by linking with the right people. It can be very beneficial for you to ask for guidance from people who are successfully managing life.
If you or someone you know is feeling like they’re all alone in how they’re feeling or what they’re dealing with, please contact us at tanyikamoorehealingarts.com for resources and referrals.
By: Tanyika “Tann” Moore, LMFT
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